During the show I was talking about ‘voyage’ with Atlas Sailing from the beginnings at Fleetwood in Lancashire right up to the present day where we now cruise the Greek Islands and I actually feel that I can now see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Land Ahoy !
Not that I’m counting the days down to that great gig in the sky but as I steamroll towards my Autumn years I feel that after this long hard voyage of life I can now finally see over the horizon to where I want to be. This is not a physical place but more a place of contentment where I can ease off the pedal and start to try and enjoy the ride a bit more. There is still plenty to do and no doubt after writing this something will come along to put me in my place. That’s what the pattern seems to have been, or at least felt like…..one step forward, two steps back, but that’s life.
Problems are all relative. What is a huge mountain to climb for one might be a walk in the park for someone else. If you think you’re having a bad day you can guarantee there’s somebody else having a worse day…….just look in the graveyard, it can always be worse.
All Things Must Pass.
Life will grind away and wear you down but one thing that the 52 years under my belt have told me is that whatever is happening at a particular time WILL PASS. So if you’re having a bad day, week , month etc it will end although there have been times where even I’ve doubted this. The same can be said for when things are going great. Don’t get complacent because it will not last.
The worst thing you can do is compare. If you make comparisons to what other people do or have you will never be content with your lot. Comparing yourself to others can take away the focus of what actually makes YOU yourself happy.
As we age the sands of time seem to speed through the hour glass faster than we would like and the weeks seem to pass in the blink of an eye but the benefit of aging is that we start to value what really matters. To many people it might seem that I have this magical lifestyle where I get to sail around one of the most beautiful places in the world then return back to the UK for a few days, mess around with a few other business interests, go out for a few beers and socialise etc etc then go back out to sail the Greek Islands again. Yes, I agree, it’s not too bad but it’s been a f***ing long, hard struggle to get here. There have been many sacrifices made and the many grey hairs I now have are testament to the shit I have waded through.
A challenge only becomes an obstacle when you bow to it.
During my talk with Kath I remember saying that if I knew now just what I would have to go through to be in the position that I am in I would have definitely not bothered. However, we set off on a voyage not knowing exactly what is in store and if you have gumption you will just deal with it.
That said, there has been some real help and assistance given to me by family and friends that has given me nudge when things got tough. So although I put a lot down to my own tenacity without certain other people I would not be here and that’s another thing that years of experience gives you….the ability to realise who and what is a waste of space.
Business is pleasure.
I’m one of the fortunate ones who can say that business IS pleasure. Many of the people that have been out sailing with us have gone on to become very good friends, many of the people I have met over recent years whilst attending various networking events and meetings have become very good friends. This is in addition to the many very good friends I already have. And that again is something that having a few years under your belt gives you.
I am at that age in life where if I think someone is an arsehole then I will not waste my time trying to be polite and put up with them. I can honestly say that I speak to everyone in the same ‘polite’ manner regardless of who they are or what they have. My view is that irrespective of whether someone has £10 or £10,000 or even £1,000,000 my attitude to them will not change and the amount of money they have doesn’t stop them becoming an arsehole and will not change my opinion of them. That said, I’m sure there are a few people that may think I’m a right arsehole but that will only be because they possibly don’t like my rather direct approach to life and my rough edges. (apologies for the excessive use of the word ‘arsehole’)
Talk Talk Talk
I think I churned enough garbage out for now so I’ll finish on a point that I have mentioned before. Another thing Kath and I agreed on is that although business strategies, marketing plans and systems have their place nothing can replace just getting off you backside and talking to people. In fact, networking is how I first met Kath and she has also become a very good friend. Although when with Kath it’s more a case of listening and trying to shoehorn the odd word in now and again but I’m sure she’ll forgive me for saying that.
Goodbye for now. I need to go and pack my things as I’m back out to Greece in the morning.
THANK YOU ALL
PS. I am available for public speaking, marriage guidance and general motivational talks ;-)